Successful Teaming Starts With Understanding Personalities

Successful Teaming Starts With Understanding Personalities

We’ve all taken personality assessments at some point in our careers. From DiSC to Myers-Briggs to Tilt and the Enneagram, these tools have been used for decades to help individuals understand their behavioral patterns, motivators, and stress responses. And while they remain some of the best predictors of behavioral tendencies, they are often misused.

Organizations frequently treat assessments as a stand-alone intervention—as if a one-time report will magically transform communication, collaboration, and performance. But information alone is not transformation. It only becomes powerful when people are taught how to use it.

Leadership development has long been a major global industry, yet many programs fall short. Why? Because organizations skip the essential follow-through: embedding the insights into everyday conversations, building a common language across teams, and creating opportunities for people to practice new behaviors. Knowledge without application doesn’t move culture. Knowledge applied does.

So if a company is considering using a personality assessment to bring greater cohesion to their teams, the real question becomes: How will we help people use this information to work better together? What follows is a practical look at teaming from two angles—the mindset of the manager, and the leaders responsible for developing them.


Know Thyself

Before a manager can lead others effectively, they must understand themselves. Reviewing assessment results and identifying what resonates is the first step. Bringing a team together to explore their collective profiles is the second.

When this happens, a team begins to understand why certain interactions feel effortless and others feel draining. One person’s motivator may be another person’s stressor. One teammate thrives on collaboration; another needs quiet reflection before weighing in. Unmet emotional needs at work are one of the biggest contributors to disengagement and misalignment—yet most teams never name them directly.

A manager’s willingness to share their own results openly creates the first brick in the foundation of trust. From there, the goal is to keep the conversation alive: reflective questions in weekly meetings, moments of comparison across styles, observations about communication preferences, and gentle challenges to step into growth. This ongoing cadence is what turns insight into capability.

Knowledge applied is power.


A Growth Plan for Managers

It’s easy to blame managers when engagement drops, but the reality is more complex. Many managers never received proper development to begin with. Others were elevated too quickly. And in the post-pandemic landscape, organizations often promoted people simply to fill gaps—ready or not.

The issue isn’t that managers don’t care. It’s that they were never taught how to translate personality insights into leadership behavior.

Meanwhile, many organizations still treat training as a “one-and-done” exercise. They deliver an assessment, run a single workshop, then expect lasting change—without reinforcing behaviors, modeling expectations, or creating shared language.

Even bigger challenges arise when different teams use different systems or models. It becomes the Wild West of teaming: each group speaking its own dialect, none fully aligned, all trying to solve the same challenges without a shared framework.

Leaders must decide on a unified path and get their teams engaged in it—helping everyone learn the same language and apply it consistently. Without genuine buy-in, assessments turn into box-checking activity that employees eventually tune out.

True behavior change requires weaving personality insights into real work, real conversations, and real decisions. When managers understand their own tendencies, learn how their team members show up, and practice empathy for these differences, something powerful happens: people stop reacting to each other and start understanding each other.


A Practical Growth Plan for Managers

For teams to use personality data as a true performance lever:

  • Managers must understand their own behavioral patterns first—natural wiring, stress responses, and blind spots.

  • They should reflect regularly on how each personality type influences team dynamics, communication, and conflict.

  • They must create space for empathy, recognizing that differences are not obstacles but pathways to better collaboration.

  • They should use completed reports as a source of insight when coaching, giving feedback, or partnering cross-functionally.

When people know who they are in the mix—and why they show up the way they do—it opens the door to curiosity about others. This is the foundation of high-trust, high-performance teams.


Conclusion

Personality assessments will continue to evolve, but their purpose remains the same: helping people understand themselves and others so they can work together more effectively. Leaders who use them as one-off tools miss the opportunity to build a cohesive, collaborative culture.

Sustained behavior change comes from weaving these insights into the fabric of everyday work—conversations, decisions, feedback, meetings, and team rituals. When employees speak a common language about behavior, motivation, and stress, teaming becomes easier and relationships become stronger.

This is the work I continue to support leaders and teams with today: translating insight into action, and helping organizations build cultures where people understand themselves, value each other, and collaborate with intention.

Culture shifts when people do.

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5 Tips to Create a Cohesive, Collaborative Team

Building a cohesive, collaborative team takes intention. Assigning people to a project and calling them a “team” doesn’t mean they’ll function as one. Teaming well requires soft skills—communication, problem-solving, emotional intelligence, and leadership at every level.

The learning process isn’t complicated. It’s the commitment to practicing these skills consistently that makes the difference. These five steps will help strengthen your team’s dynamics so individuals thrive—and the organization wins.


1. Get to Know Your Teammates

It sounds almost too simple, but many teams skip it entirely. Real connection begins with genuine curiosity.

Take the extra 20 seconds to ask how someone is doing and actually wait for their answer. Notice the small things: a photo on their desk, a favorite mug, a pet they love talking about. These tiny conversations build belonging.

If you want to take it a step further, learn their coffee order and surprise them. Find out whether they prefer one-on-one catch-ups or happy hour conversations. Even on the days you’re not in the mood to chat, a single thoughtful question can shift someone’s sense of connection. It goes further than you think.


2. Build Trust Through Your Actions

When people hear “trust building,” they picture trust falls—and immediately check out. But vulnerability-based trust has nothing to do with team-building theatrics and everything to do with how we show up.

A study from Accenture quantified what many of us feel intuitively: trust directly impacts performance.
When trust drops by just two points, EBITDA decreases by nearly 10%.

Teams can’t afford to ignore that. Trust isn’t soft—it’s strategic.

And it starts with authenticity. Understanding your own tendencies—your strengths, stress responses, blind spots—helps you show up more consistently for others. When everyone on a team is committed to the same kind of honesty, alignment becomes much easier.


3. Be Accountable

Clear communication makes accountability possible. And accountability isn’t just top-down—it’s peer-to-peer.

Real accountability means:

  • Following through on what you’ve committed to

  • Being someone others can depend on

  • Addressing gaps when a teammate isn’t following through

Showing up late, missing deadlines, or being inconsistent communicates a message—one you may not intend but others will absolutely feel.

And on the flip side: holding someone else accountable can be uncomfortable, yet it’s essential. Healthy teams normalize honest conversations. Naming what’s not working is a sign of respect and an investment in collective success.


4. Focus on Team Results, Not Individual Wins

Everyone has personal goals, but when someone prioritizes individual achievement over the group’s success, collaboration breaks down fast.

If you lean toward lone-wolf tendencies, pause and reconsider the impact. Working in isolation shuts out diverse thinking, slows progress, and fractures team cohesion. Collaboration almost always produces stronger outcomes.

Remember the old saying: There’s no “I” in team.
It’s still true—and it still matters.


5. Show Appreciation

Recognition is one of the most underestimated drivers of performance. More than 35% of employees say lack of recognition is the biggest hindrance to their productivity.

But not everyone wants to be appreciated in the same way.
Some people love public celebration.
Some want a quiet “thank you.”
Some prefer a written note or a small acknowledgment that their work mattered.

If you take the time to know your people, you’ll learn how they like to receive appreciation—and you’ll get it right more often.

Cohesion isn’t accidental. It’s the result of consistent behaviors practiced over time.


The Work Is Worth It

Building a cohesive, collaborative team requires dedication from everyone. Each person—manager or individual contributor—must commit to strengthening communication, emotional intelligence, accountability, and trust.

When these five practices become habits, teams naturally become more aligned, resilient, and effective. The results speak for themselves.

Leadership at all levels isn’t an idea—it’s a practice. And cohesive teams grow from the inside out.

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How to Build Trust on Your Team

Trust is often discussed yet rarely understood. We tend to think of it as reliability or honesty, but in the context of team dynamics, trust has a more powerful definition: the willingness to be vulnerable with one another. When people feel safe enough to be open about mistakes, uncertainties, and weaknesses, collaboration becomes easier, conflict becomes more productive, and results become far more achievable.

“Trust is the foundation of real teamwork.” — Patrick Lencioni

So how do we actually build that kind of trust?

Below are three core practices that strengthen trust on any team, along with practical insights to help you begin.


1. Trust Begins With Self-Reflection

Before we talk about team dynamics, it’s worth pausing to consider your own experiences with trust — both giving and receiving it.

  • How did it feel when someone broke your trust?

  • How did it feel when you broke someone else’s?

  • What happened to the relationship afterward?

  • Was repair possible? And if so, what made repair work?

Reflection gives us context for how trust shows up in our own behavior.
And whether you lead a team, collaborate across departments, or influence from the middle, one thing is true:

You cannot cultivate trust externally if you haven’t examined it internally.

Strong working relationships are built, not assumed — and trust is the foundation every other skill sits on.


2. Vulnerability Builds Connection (and It’s Not What You Think)

Most people don’t show up to work thinking, “Let’s be vulnerable today!” (For good reason.)

But in the workplace, vulnerability isn’t about oversharing — it’s about being authentic enough that others can understand you. When you’re willing to share context about:

  • what motivates you

  • what stresses you out

  • how you prefer to communicate

  • where you struggle

…you give others a framework for interacting with you more effectively. That transparency builds psychological safety — the first ingredient of trust.

Vulnerability isn’t softness. It’s clarity. And clarity is a form of strength.


3. Personality Shapes Trust — Learn How Your Style Impacts Others

A significant part of trust-building lies in understanding the different ways people naturally show up.

Using a framework like Everything DiSC™ can help teams learn about motivators, priorities, and stress behaviors. Not to box people in, but to create shared language around how different styles collaborate.

Here’s a simple way to think about the four DiSC styles:

  • Dominance (D): Results-focused, decisive, fast-moving. May appear blunt or impatient under stress.

  • Influence (i): Social, enthusiastic, expressive. May overlook details or commitments when overloaded.

  • Steadiness (S): Supportive, calm, relationship-driven. May resist change or avoid conflict.

  • Conscientiousness (C): Analytical, detail-oriented, thorough. May seem skeptical or slow to commit without data.

Understanding these differences helps us see behavior not as personal, but contextual. And contextual understanding is what allows trust to grow.


4. Get to Know Your Team as Humans, Not Just Roles

Trust doesn’t develop through job titles or skill sets — it develops through connection.

People want to be seen, known, and valued. 
That doesn’t require deep personal disclosures; it requires human curiosity:

  • Where did they grow up?

  • What brings them energy?

  • What are their career goals?

  • What pressures or realities shape their day-to-day?

When you understand who people are — not just what they do — you gain insight into how to support them, motivate them, and collaborate with them.

And trust grows naturally from there.


Putting It All Together

Building trust isn’t a single action; it’s a series of small, consistent choices.
When you practice self-reflection, show authentic vulnerability, stay aware of personality differences, and get to know the people behind the roles, trust becomes a natural outcome rather than a forced initiative.

Each of us is responsible for creating trust on our teams. Start small — choose one practice to focus on each week, and let it become part of your rhythm. Over time, those habits compound. And if you want a team that communicates openly, collaborates honestly, and solves problems effectively, trust isn’t optional.

It’s the work.

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Encourage Leadership at All Levels

Leadership Isn’t a Level — It’s a Behavior

Employees often equate leadership with positional authority — the power to direct, approve, or decide. But when leadership is defined only by titles, innovation slows, accountability bottlenecks, and people wait instead of lead.

Organizations thrive when everyone understands they contribute to leadership — not someday, but right now, from where they already sit.

When employees are invited and equipped to take initiative, a ripple of positive influence begins to move throughout the system.


Leadership Is a Team Sport

Every role matters — from the top of the structure to the newest hire. When organizations encourage collaboration, shared accountability, and proactive problem-solving, success becomes collective, not individual.

You may have heard the idea that “you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” At work, that concept can become a powerful accelerant.

Imagine a group standing in a pool. If one person begins walking in a circle, they create a small whirlpool. Others feel the pull and join. Soon the current — not the individuals — is what moves everyone forward.

That’s leadership at all levels: not one person directing change, but many creating momentum together.


Influence isn’t top-down. It moves in every direction teams connect.


Mentorship as Leadership

Human connection accelerates development. When employees have a guide — someone who helps them navigate people, culture, and expectations — capability grows faster. Confidence grows too.

Mentorship isn’t about hierarchy. It’s about proximity and care. A mentor helps a teammate orient to a new environment, access knowledge, see opportunities, and believe they belong here. And it’s reciprocal. Mentors often gain fresh insights from those they support, learning from new perspectives, emerging tools, and frontline realities they may no longer see from their vantage point. In this way, mentors and protégés become co-learners, strengthening the organization from both sides.

Leadership flows up as much as down — a powerful reminder that influence isn’t reserved for peopel with titles. It grows wherever people are willing to guide, support, and share what they know.


Emotional Intelligence Turns Intention into Impact

Technical skill may get someone into a role — EQ determines how well they thrive within it. Leaders at all levels build emotional intelligence by becoming more self-aware, staying thoughtful under pressure, taking initiative, practicing empathy, and communicating effectively.

These aren’t “soft skills.” They are scaling skills — enabling people to navigate complexity, resolve conflict, build trust, and move work forward across differences. They empower individuals to show up differently… which changes what becomes possible.


Lead From Where You Are

Leadership shows up in everyday behaviors — welcoming a new teammate, asking a question others haven’t voiced, sharing information early, or choosing curiosity over blame. These small acts shape culture more than any title ever could.

The whirlpool effect applies here too: when one person moves with purpose, others feel the invitation to do the same.


Why This Matters for Organizations

When leadership is concentrated only at the top:

  • Decisions slow down

  • Teams disengage

  • Culture deteriorates

When leadership is distributed:

  • Change accelerates

  • Accountability expands

  • Culture strengthens from within

Organizations rise when more people step up — not when only a few hold the reins.


Closing Thought

Culture shifts when you do.

Leadership at all levels isn’t just a philosophy — it’s a strategic advantage that unlocks collective capability, connection, and results.

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The Blueprint For A Culture Revolution

Culture Happens — With or Without Intention

Every workplace has a culture — but without intention, investment, and careful shepherding, that culture can quickly become chaotic. Organizations never aim for a terrible working environment. Yet it happens… because smart, ambitious humans are thrown together and expected to figure out how to collaborate, Survivor-style.

When teams begin to unravel, “Band-Aid fixes” only delay deeper issues. Sustainable culture change comes from fostering compassion and connection — vertically and horizontally. It starts with a simple truth:

Culture isn’t a perk – it’s a system we build together.

And it starts with a simple truth: how we show up matters.

Culture Is Built Through Relationship

My work has focused on shifting the narrative from “engaged employees” to connected humans. Bringing teams together meaningfully is at the heart of what I do.

To do this successfully, teams must develop:

  • Self-awareness

  • Awareness of others

  • A foundation of trust

Then leaders can build skills that decrease destructive conflict and increase productive conflict — while activating leadership far beyond the org chart.

The Culture Blueprint: Four Key Components

1️⃣ Engagement
2️⃣ Personalities
3️⃣ Connected Teams
4️⃣ Cultural Evaluation

This blueprint addresses every layer of human interaction at work. It begins with understanding the current reality — how people interact, communicate, and perceive one another. From there, learning is tailored to the team’s needs, including coaching where needed.

When purpose aligns with shared action across the organization — top to bottom — transformation becomes possible. It’s not magic. It’s people.

Managers account for at least 70% of variance in employee engagement scores.¹

Engagement Starts with People

We each show up with different motivators, priorities, and stressors. And the people closest to us feel the ripple effects — for better or for worse.

We all brighten a room – some do it when they walk in, others when they walk out.

Organizations need two core ingredients to build a place people love to work:

  • A clear plan to navigate the “people” work

  • Genuine buy-in for a shared cultural vision

Step 2 — Personalities

Any Strength Taken to Excess Becomes a Weakness

There is often a gap between how we think we show up and how others experience us. Personality styles — shaped by wiring, culture, history, and life experience — create different lenses through which we operate.

Without awareness, this leads to misunderstanding. And misunderstanding leads to frustration.

Emotional stress can be both a cause and effect of conflict.² That’s why understanding each other’s intensions or style matters — there is no “superstar” personality. Every style holds brilliance.

Diversity of Personality Makes Teams Stronger

Personality diversity isn’t just valuable — it’s critical.

This work gives teams:

  • A shared language

  • Insight into different styles

  • Tools to adapt communication to others’ needs

Because showing up how others need is far more effective than showing up how we prefer.

When teams embrace differences with empathy instead of judgment, culture strengthens.

Step 3 — Connected Teams

The Way We Team Matters

Throwing talented people together does not equal a successful team.
Skills in collaboration must be learned and practiced — repeatedly.

Humans tend to:

  • Assume others think like we do

  • Attribute behavior to personality instead of situation (the fundamental attribution error)⁴

  • Blame others before examining our own role

This is why miscommunication is one of the greatest sources of stress, conflict, and disengagement at work.

Step 4 — Cultural Evolution

You Can’t Change People — Only Yourself

Meaningful culture change doesn’t ask people to become someone different.
It invites them to see differently.

Shifting perspective can unlock new possibilities for connection.
This is hard — and transformational — for individuals and for teams.

The continual learning model — a framework I created to help teams strengthen habits over time — reinforces:

  • Trust-building behaviors

  • Productive conflict skills

  • Collaboration strategies

  • Habit shifts through repeated practice

Culture change isn’t a one-and-done training.
It’s a daily relational practice.

A Culture (R)evolution

A “negative employee experience” is rarely anyone’s intention. People want to do good work — with and for good humans. When we understand the impact of how we show up, and take action accordingly, we change everything.

I believe people are inherently brilliant. And when you give them the right tools and environment, their brilliance becomes collective strength — inside the organization and far beyond it.

We each shape the environment we create — and how we show up matters.


Footnotes

¹ Gallup workplace research — Manager influence on engagement scores
² Research on stress-conflict cycle in workplace psychology
⁴ Ross, L. (1977), “The Intuitive Psychologist and His Shortcomings: Distortions in the Attribution Process.”

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Self-Awareness in Action: Leadership That Reaches Beyond Work

Leadership Lives Everywhere

Many people still define “leadership” as a position — a manager, director, or someone who assigns tasks and gives direction. But leadership is far broader, far more personal, and far more powerful than a box on the org chart.

Leadership is how we influence others.
Leadership is who we are in practice, not who we are on paper.
And leadership doesn’t turn off when we leave the office.

If you’re willing to examine your patterns, strengthen your awareness, and make intentional choices about how you show up, you can lead in every corner of your life — work, family, friendships, and community.

Everyone has this capacity. The question is whether we choose to use it.


Self-Awareness: The Starting Point for Any Real Change

Leadership begins with knowing yourself well enough to grow.
There is no transformation without reflection, and no evolution without honesty.

Developing self-awareness means embracing a growth mindset — a willingness to learn, experiment, and refine your behavior over time. This includes recognizing your strengths, acknowledging your blind spots, observing your patterns under stress and understanding the impact you have on others.

Personality assessments can be helpful tools here. Frameworks like Everything DiSC™ give language to why we operate the way we do and how others may interpret (or misinterpret) our intentions.

Being brave enough to explore where you struggle — and why — is the first step toward leading yourself well.

When you gain clarity about who you are, you gain clarity about how you show up in the world.
And that opens the door to every other aspect of leadership.


Leading With Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the second anchor of whole-life leadership.
It’s the ability to understand your emotions, regulate them appropriately, and recognize the emotions of others.

Strong EQ helps you:

  • manage relationships with intention

  • navigate conflict with composure

  • communicate clearly and compassionately

  • connect with people who see the world differently

  • respond rather than react

The five core components of EQ — self-awareness, self-regulation, motivation, empathy, and social skills — are all skills that can be developed with practice.

And importantly: EQ matters just as much at home as it does at work. It shapes how you parent, how you partner, how you resolve tension, and how you model behavior for the people who look to you for guidance.

Leadership in one space spills into every space.


Choosing to Lead the Change Around You

Self-awareness and EQ create the foundation for leadership, but leadership takes form through action.

Sometimes that action looks like standing up for what’s right, even when it’s unpopular.
Sometimes it’s stepping in when others hesitate.
Sometimes it’s modeling grace, accountability, or courage in the moments that matter.

And sometimes, leadership is simply becoming a better version of yourself — one decision at a time.

To visualize this, imagine a group of people in a swimming pool. One person begins to walk in a circle, creating a small whirlpool. The people nearby feel the pull. When more join, the current strengthens. Eventually, everyone is carried in the same direction.

That’s influence.
That’s leadership.
That’s the power of a single person choosing to show up with intention.

But remember — currents can pull in both positive and negative directions.

If you see your organization or your relationships drifting toward behaviors that aren’t aligned with the culture you want, you have the ability — and responsibility — to help redirect the flow. Even a small shift can change the entire dynamic.


Lead in the Way You Want Others to Follow

There’s no “I” in team, but teams are made of individuals — each one influencing the environment through their choices, tone, mindset, and behavior.

Leadership isn’t reserved for those with authority. It is a daily practice in how you show up, how you listen, how you communicate, and how you move through the world.

And people are always watching — not to judge, but to understand what’s possible.
Your actions set the tone for the current around you.

Choose to lead in a way that strengthens trust, connection, and integrity wherever you go.


A Thought to Leave You With

Be the leader you want to experience — at work, at home, and in the quiet in-between moments. Self-awareness is the beginning. Action is the evolution. And your influence reaches farther than you think.

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Leading in Your Whole Life: A Personal Leadership (R)evolution

Leadership Is Influence — Nothing More, Nothing Less

When people hear “leadership,” they often picture executives, managers, or someone who gets copied on too many emails. Many assume leadership only lives at work — that it belongs to the person “in charge.”

But leadership is for everyone. Every employee, every parent, every teammate. Every human influences the people around them, whether they realize it or not. It could be positive or negative, intentional or accidental. Leadership is influence, so at the end of the day, they’re still leading in some way.

Today, I want to talk about what it looks like to lead in your whole life — and why it sometimes takes a personal revolution (or at least an evolution) to get there.


My Path to a Personal (R)evolution

Years ago, I found myself struggling — deeply — with my manager. I was stressed, anxious, and constantly bracing for impact. Some of it was self-imposed pressure, but a lot of it stemmed from feeling unseen and misunderstood.

And the painful truth hit: I needed to show up differently. Not pretend, not perform — actually shift the way I interacted with her. But how do you change the way you’ve always been? Especially when your personality feels pretty baked in?

I started where most leadership journeys begin: Understanding myself first.

I dug into personality frameworks — mine, hers, and how the two of us were colliding. I explored motivators, stressors, and those subtle behaviors that shape how people perceive us. It turns out the way we think we’re showing up isn’t always how others experience us.

That was a humbling and important lens shift.


Emotional Needs Are Like Oxygen

From there, I learned something that changed everything:

Emotional needs aren’t “nice to haves.” They’re literally like oxygen.

We all need different things — respect, clarity, calm, appreciation, connection. And when those needs are stepped on, the reaction is very real.

Think of someone using a portable oxygen tank. If you step on their tubing, the airflow stops. There’s an immediate impact.

Emotional needs work the same way. When I began to understand her needs — not just my own — our dynamic changed. And when I understood my family’s needs, my parenting and marriage shifted too. Personality differences suddenly looked like insights instead of obstacles.


Books, Reframing, and Seeing Myself Clearly

I devoured anything that would help me lead myself more effectively — from The Speed of Trust to The Magic of Thinking Big to Launching a Leadership Revolution. Each one expanded my awareness and helped me see the role I was playing in my own stress.

And here’s the ripple effect: 
Learning to show up differently at work changed how I showed up at home.
Personality insights helped me communicate with my kids differently.
Emotional intelligence helped me meet my husband where he naturally lives — with a gentler presence than mine.

Leadership in your whole life translates everywhere.


Evolution or Revolution?

Two years into this journey, the shift was undeniable. I was calmer. More grounded. More open. I saw other people’s perspectives more quickly, and my own needs more clearly. Work got better. So did home.

Was it a slow evolution?
Or a full-on revolution?
Honestly, probably both.

Sometimes life asks for small, intentional shifts.
Other times it demands a break in the pattern — a new way of being.

Either way, personal leadership is a choice. And someone is always watching to see if it’s safe to join your “current.”


People Are Watching — Everywhere

We’ve all seen strong role models… and less-than-great ones. The truth is, whether we realize it or not, we’re influencing people constantly.

When you’re in line at the grocery store, someone notices your patience — or your impatience.
When you snap at a waiter, someone sees it.
When you drop everything to help someone, that is seen too.

Kids especially notice everything, which is important to remember because they’re our next generation of leaders.

Leadership isn’t what you say — it’s what you model.

So the question becomes:
What current are you creating?


Be the Change (Yes, Really)

Leading in your whole life doesn’t require a position or a title. It requires awareness, courage, and choice.

  • Choice to show up well even when no one’s watching.

  • Choice to shift patterns that no longer serve you.

  • Choice to create a current others feel safe being pulled into.

Because personal leadership matters — at work, at home, in every space you move through.

Personal leadership is a daily choice — small shifts that accumulate into meaningful change. Whether your path calls for an evolution or a revolution, your ripple matters. Someone is always watching, always learning, always deciding whether to join your current. Lead in a way that invites them in.

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Living Intentionally — Today’s the Day

Intentional living has always mattered to me, but it didn’t fully click until I realized how much it shapes the way I lead. For years, my day began the same way: with a steaming cup of coffee, a corner chair by the window, and a few precious minutes of stillness before the world woke up. That quiet ritual created space for gratitude, reflection, and perspective — a grounding that helped me meet the rest of the day with clarity.

But over time, I noticed something important:
Living intentionally for the first hour of the day wasn’t enough.
If I wanted a life marked by alignment, purpose, and meaningful relationships — at work and at home — I needed to bring that same intentionality into every part of my life.

That realization became a turning point. Somewhere along the way, I had adopted the mantra:
Live intentionally for excellence.
It resonated deeply, but in the hard seasons of life, I lost sight of it. Rediscovering it became a reminder that life is short — and that the way we show up matters far beyond our to-do lists or job titles.

And that’s the heart of intentional leadership:
How we choose to live shapes how we lead.
Not the other way around.


Purpose Starts With Paying Attention

My purpose — creating connection and community in the workplace — didn’t appear out of nowhere. It grew from observing small human moments: the employee who doesn’t feel understood, the manager who communicates in a way that shuts down dialogue without meaning to, the team that works hard but never quite aligns.

When we understand ourselves, we lead differently.
When we understand others, we relate differently.
And when we choose to live intentionally, those differences become strengths — not friction points.

Intentionality is simply awareness turned into action.
Here are three ways to practice it in daily life, at work and beyond.


1. Make a Difference — Even in Small Ways

We often underestimate the impact of small gestures because we assume they’re insignificant. They’re not.

A simple hello.
A moment of genuine attention.
A willingness to acknowledge someone who feels unseen.

These actions ripple outward. Sometimes they shift someone’s entire day — or the way they think about themselves.

Fear often keeps us from reaching out (“What will they think?”), but intentional living requires us to move toward others, not away. Small acts of kindness are leadership in motion.


2. Bring a Different Person to the Table

We all show up with natural wiring shaped by personality, upbringing, and lived experience. These internal patterns influence how we communicate, how we perceive others, and how they perceive us.

Intentional living asks a simple but powerful question:
What version of myself does this moment need?

That doesn’t mean abandoning who we are.
It means expanding who we can be.

A highly driven personality may need to soften intensity.
A quiet processor may need to speak earlier in the conversation.
An optimistic influencer may need to organize thoughts before sharing.
A conscientious evaluator may need to widen the lens from details to impact.

Leadership is never just about the message — it’s about meeting people where they are. When you shift your approach to how others best receive information, connection grows.

How we choose to live shapes how we lead — in every corner of our lives.


3. Step Up in the Moments That Matter

Intentional living doesn’t require grand gestures or major commitments. Sometimes it means noticing what’s needed — and choosing to act.

Support someone struggling with remote work by sharing what’s worked for you.
Offer guidance to a new team member who feels lost.
Create space for a difficult conversation and approach it with honesty.
And yes — when something isn’t right, be the person willing to say so.

Leadership is influence, and influence begins with courage.


Leading in Your Whole Life

The truth is, every year will bring challenges. Circumstances change, roles evolve, and the world offers no shortage of uncertainty. But intentional leadership isn’t about waiting for perfect conditions.

It’s about choosing how you show up today.

The small choices you make — how you speak to a colleague, how you respond to stress, how you treat the person standing in front of you — shape the culture around you. Whether you realize it or not, people are watching. They’re noticing your current. And they’re deciding whether it’s a safe one to join.

Leadership isn’t confined to the office. It’s practiced in the grocery store line, at the dinner table, on challenging days and ordinary ones alike.

So go be a force for good — at work, at home, and everywhere in between.
Today is the day.

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